When it comes to planning your wedding day there will be so, so many decisions to make. The choices you make are what will make your wedding unique and authentically YOU, some people won’t get those choices but that’s fine, as long as they make sense to you that’s all that matters.
I’ve been helping brides-to-be for over 7 years now to create the wedding of their dreams and I’ve most definitely seen and heard it all when it comes to the challenges facing many, many nearlyweds.
The number one thing I hear time and time again is that it’s all so overwhelming.
There’s so much to do and endless decisions that need to be made, and if you are planning over a long period of say 12 to 18 months, this feeling of prolonged stress and overwhelm can have a really detrimental affect on your wellbeing.
This is not how anyone should be starting married life.
Decision fatigue is a real thing and can lead to unhealthy and unproductive choices that impact how you feel on a daily basis. Throughout your planning you may also be working hard in your career, carving out time for your nearest and dearest, perhaps even setting up home, all this whilst trying to have an actual life too.
So it’s easy to see why so many people say they didn’t enjoy the planning process or worse were so burnt out by the time they reached their wedding that they didn’t even enjoy their day.
Hearing this pains me so much – and I can tell you this for certain, it absolutely DOES NOT have to be this way.
It is possible to change your experience to a positive one, with little steps and shifts in your awareness and approach. This is one of the cornerstones of my teaching and something I’ve learnt myself over the years of running a growing business and helping multiple clients at once to plan their weddings (sometimes I may be planning 8 weddings, managing the business and my team as well as dealing with my own life drama’s all at the same time!).
What I’d like to leave you with today is this thought: Indecision is a decision within itself.
If you are avoiding making decisions for fear of making a mistake, putting things off in case you make a bad choice, or wondering what people will think about your choices then you’re going to drive yourself insane and not get very far at all. So end the madness now and take some little steps forward.
There’s a couple of things you can do to help you move past indecision:
Ask yourself “Does this really matter?” Don’t deplete your energy mulling over what to have for lunch, what shoes go best with that dress or whether you should take route A or B home this evening. The more energy you give to these, the less you have for the more important decisions that really need your focus.
Don’t make your decisions more complicated than they need to be. Just choose your option and go with it, tune into that voice inside and listen to your intuition.
Stop worrying. Right or wrong a decision you make is never permanent, you can always course correct if you need to, so stop worrying about making mistakes. Know that it’s not the end of the world if you do make a mistake, sometimes we learn far more about ourselves and others from those mistakes so embrace the setbacks and the failures, they could be the opportunities in disguise.
Here’s to moving out of overwhelm and indecision.